Top 5 Reasons Why Women Fake Orgasms
1. To satisfy...his ego.
I actually almost understand this. Until I don't. You're pretending to make him feel better? What feels better than an ORGASM? The answer, my friends, is nothing. When did your climaxing become less important, less vital, less the key to having sex, than ensuring that your man (of the hour, month, year) doesn't feel like less of a man because he couldn't get you there? His feelings should not eclipse your...feelings...if you know what I mean.
2. To get it over with.
You're laying there (or maybe you're not just laying there heh), he's close and you realize it's just not going to happen for you. So you fake it knowing that he's waiting for that cue. He gets his, you don't get yours and the sexventures come to a close. I've got to ask some questions here.
a) Did you want to have sex or were you pressured into it (by guilt, coercion, a feeling of responsibility maybe)?
b) Did you still enjoy the sexy times?
c) Are you lying to yourself? Could you have gotten there if he slowed down a bit and focused on you?
If you answered yes to the first question, that's not exactly behaviour you want to encourage. No one but you should decide when you have sex. If you want it, chances are you'll be more likely to have the big O.
If you answered yes to the second question, then who cares? You can still enjoy a bang without the big finale and letting your partner know that is fine. Maybe he'll be a gentleman (lol) and offer to get you there without his disco stick.
If you answered yes to the third question, then you're denying yourself an orgasm and that is a sin. Hold out! Let him know what you need! Make him work a little! Your orgasm is just as important as his. I can pretty much guarantee he'll get there no matter what, so if you need a few specifics, don't be afraid to ask.
3. Because I faked it once and now he expects me to cum every time.
Ah yes. So you did it once, maybe for reasons #1 or #2, and now he thinks he's a sex god. He's convinced that you can orgasm 5 minutes into sex because he did it once, and then it becomes an expectation. You'd be breaking the habit and shattering his illusions if you stopped one day.
BREAK THIS HABIT. Break it now. You're doing yourself and your fella (or lady) a disservice. Honesty is always the best policy, and this is never truer than when it comes to sex. I don't care how you do it. Ease into it. Tell him. Just stop. Whatever floats your boat. You owe it to yourself! How would you feel if you found out your partner was faking?
4. I want him to think I'm sexual.
Hopefully you having sex is enough proof that you're sexual. Because of, you know, the sex. Sexuality isn't defined by you faking an orgasm! Find some new parameters ladybird. Parameters I could suggest might include: lubrication, extended foreplay, sexcellent communication (see what I did there?), initiating, masturbating, and generally loving your half of the sexual equation. The definition of sexuality doesn't fit in a box (heh). But faking an orgasm isn't about your sexuality, it's about his. Focus on YOU. Get yours!
5. Because society has unconsciously conditioned me to believe that my vagina exists to provide a service for men and not an orgasm for myself.
It's not so! Because science! And by science I do mean the clitoris, which exists for no other reason except to give you the warmest of warm tinglies. No other organ on women OR men can claim that they exist for this sole purpose. Far out dude.
If that organ isn't the biggest "permission to orgasm" button nature has ever seen, than I don't know what is. So...push it.
Push it real good.
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